Chapter 989: The Gentleman Asks for Himself

Zi said: "The gentleman is sick and incompetent, and he is not sick and does not know himself." ”

Lege habitually asked, "What do you mean?" Interpret it! ”

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: A gentleman is only afraid that he has no talent, and he is not afraid that others will not know him. ”

This sentence of your husband is not only self-comforting, but also an encouragement to others! Well! Good! Lege nodded.

"Thank you! Thank you Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Don't worry that others don't know you, just because you're famous but don't really have skills! The aroma of wine is not afraid of deep alleys! Don't be impetuous! The most important thing is to learn the skills in a down-to-earth manner!

"Read on!"

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Zi said: "The gentleman is sick and unworthy of his name." ”

"What do you mean?" Lege asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: The gentleman's greatest concern is that his name will not be praised by people after death, and his reputation will not be reasonably evaluated. ”

"!" Le Ge scolded: "Your husband just wants to be famous and leave a name for all generations!" Alas! If a person dies like a lamp goes out, how can you know what others say about you? Do you think what you hear is a correct and fair evaluation? Maybe someone else is flattering you and making fun of you. Maybe? People are talking badly about you all over the place! You think that if someone scolds you to your face, your image will be damaged. You have been framed, and your image and honor have been damaged? No! Maybe you happened to meet someone you inadvertently offended? ”

Zeng Shen interrupted: "Uncle Le! My husband asks us to try not to offend people and try to be perfect. So! No one should speak ill of us behind our backs or insult us to our faces. ”

"Zeng Shen! You're dogmatic again! No one is perfect, no one can do it! Le Ge scolded.

"I mean as much as possible! My husband asked us to try our best! Zeng Shen argued.

Le Ge glared at Zeng Shen and said, "Your husband is a saint, right?" Can he do it? Has he sinned few? For example, the fall of Sandu! He didn't offend anyone? For example! When he traveled around the world, did he not offend anyone? He's so awesome? If he had been so good, he wouldn't have traveled around the world like a 'lost dog'! Isn't it? ”

"Isn't it?" Zeng Shen argued: "It's someone else's reason, the reason is not Mr.!" ”

"You, you, you! Look at you! Blaming the cause and the fault on someone else? If you and your husband are theoretical, it is not because of someone else, someone else's reason, but! You guys didn't do a good job! If you do your best, where can you inadvertently offend others? And! I still offend others and I don't know it! Isn't it? Don't argue with me, read on! ”

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen had no choice but to answer.

He still wanted to argue, but he didn't dare to argue. Furthermore! What's the use of arguing? He can't argue with Uncle Legole.

Le Ge said: "Oh! I remember! When you arrange these contents in it, you should be sighing: Your husband left Wei Linggong, right? Your husband is talented, but he has not been reused by Wei Linggong. But! Your husband is still very confident, believing that gold will definitely shine. Isn't it? ”

"This?" Zeng responded, but did not explain specifically.

"Read on!"

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

There is nothing more fearful than having your reputation misinterpreted! Especially those who have been wronged, this is what it means to die without turning a blind eye!

Zi said: "The gentleman asks for himself, and the villain asks for others." ”

"What do you mean?" Lege asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: The first thing a gentleman thinks of when he encounters something is how to deal with it, and it is best not to trouble others; When the villain encounters something, the first thing he thinks of is to ask for help from others. ”

"A gentleman is self-reliant, and a villain is dependent on others! That's what it means, right? ”

"Yes! Uncle Le! ”

"Hmmm! Good! Read on. ”

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Zi said: "A gentleman is reserved but not fighting, and the group is not a party." ”

"What do you mean?" Lege asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: A gentleman is dignified and does not quarrel with others, and he is gregarious and does not form a party for personal gain. ”

"Hmmm! Good! Le Ge replied.

Zeng Shen further explained: "This is also an interpretation of 'gentlemen are harmonious but different, villains are the same but not harmonious'!" ”

"Hmmm! Good! Read on! ”

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Zi said: "A gentleman does not lift people by his words, and he does not use people to talk nonsense." ”

"What do you mean?" Lege asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: A gentleman does not recommend a person based on what he says, nor does he not adopt a person's opinion because of his bad character. ”

"Hmmm! It's a smart thing to do! Good! ”

"Thank you, Uncle Le!"

"Hmmm! Good! Go on! ”

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

"The above are all things that Mr. talks about the behavior of a gentleman, and the difference between a gentleman and a villain. What is a gentleman? Mr. believes that he should pay attention to the moral principles of righteousness, courtesy, honesty and faith; We should be strict with ourselves, and try our best to make speeches, virtues, and meritorious contributions, and pass on their fame to future generations; It should behave solemnly and be harmonious with others, but not form parties for personal gain, do not reuse people with words, and do not use people to discard their words, and so on. Of course, this is only part of the characteristics of a gentleman. ”

"You have arranged these here, mainly to interpret the relationship between your husband and Wei Linggong, right? The reason why your husband left Wei Linggong is because he is a gentleman. Le Ge said.

"Sort of!" Zeng Shen Dao.

"Good! Read on! Lege urged.

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Zigong asked: "Who has a word that can be practiced for life?" Zi said: "It is forgiven! Do unto others as you would have them do to you. ”

"What do you mean? Interpret it! Le Ge asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Zigong asked Mr. Zigong to ask: Is there a word that can be used as a motto to be pursued throughout his life? The gentleman replied, "That's 'forgiveness'!" Don't force others to accept what you don't want to accept. Don't force others to do what you don't want to do! ”

"Oh? This is your husband's interpretation of forgiveness! Lege asked.

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Confucius saw the "way of loyalty and forgiveness" as a criterion for dealing with human relationships, which is also a characteristic of Confucian ethics. In this way, resentment between people can be eliminated, interpersonal relations can be eased, and social order can be stabilized.

"Read on!"

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.

Zi said: "I am also to others, who destroys whose reputation?" If there is a reputation, it has a try. Simin also, the reason why the three generations went straight. ”

"What do you mean?" Lege asked.

Zeng Shen explained: "Mr. said: Who have I slandered for others? Who have I complimented? If there is anything I praise, it must be that I have tested him. He must have been a person who walked the right path all his life. ”

"Let's break it down!" Lege stretched out his hand and gestured.

"Yes! Uncle Le! Zeng Shen said.