46. Struggle
"Mother, I didn't think so, don't think about it." Jiang Wan held Xu Fenggu's hand tightly, looked at her and said, "It's just...... No matter how good Mr. Xie is, he is not my beloved. โ
Xu Fenggu could feel the strength of Wanwan's clenched hand, looking at her daughter's eyes at the moment, she understood that she was indeed thinking too much, and Wanwan didn't think about it that way.
It's just that she really can't understand why Wanwan, a good family like Gongzi Xie, refuses to marry.
"Wanwan, in our women's lives, we just want to have a good person to spend our lives with. Mother doesn't know where you don't like Gongzi Xie, but in the eyes of my mother, Gongzi Xie is really a rare lover. My mother also knows that your two marriages did not go well before, but you must not be discouraged about getting married because of this. Xu Fenggu held Jiang Wan's hand and persuaded softly.
Jiang Wan said: "Mother, I understand what you mean...... But now I also understand that if there is no man I love, it is better not to marry. Gongzi Xie is good, but I don't like him. Without feelings, I can't bear to marry a man. โ
Jiang Wan's words, in the eyes of this era, are a bit deviant. Marriage has always been the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, the village is better, men and women have met or gotten along before getting married, and they know each other, but those who are beautiful in the big family are beautiful and small, but it is very likely that they have not seen her husband before they got married, all thanks to their parents.
Xu Fenggu is just an ordinary member of the crowd, her ideas are in line with the values of the vast majority of people in this era, after all, there are very few people who can admire each other before they get married, and feelings come out after marriage.
"Wanwan, after getting married, you have time to have feelings with Gongzi Xie, and the most important thing before getting married is the man's character." Xu Fenggu persuaded, "A man with good character can treat his wife well after getting married, take care of the family, and become the pillar of the family." Just like your father, he doesn't seem to like to talk on weekdays, but if something big happens, it's your father who has the idea. โ
Jiang Wan didn't speak for a while. She has realized the huge gap between her and Xu Fenggu's concepts, in the past, because of her life, even if Xu Fenggu wanted her to marry, she couldn't find a good family, so she naturally wouldn't force her anything. But now it's different, with a "beloved" like Xie Chengchou appearing, Xu Fenggu naturally feels that she should marry her immediately. If Jiang Wan had come four years ago, and she hadn't had Kefu's order at that time, I am afraid that she would have quarreled with Xu Fenggu because of the issue of marriage. There are some things that have not been encountered, but once encountered, you can find a huge difference in the values of both parties.
Jiang Wan respects Xu Fenggu's mother very much, but she is not willing to marry someone she doesn't like because she respects her. There are still so many decades in her life, how can she survive if she faces a person she doesn't like from now on? Even if her body is a person of this era, she is still her, and her mind is born in the modern era and grew up in the modern era, and will not compromise with this era lightly.
"Mother, I know what you said, and I understand that other women live like this." Jiang Wan looked at Xu Fenggu steadily, her eyes were red, and she burst into tears, "But mother, I really don't want to be like all of them." Marrying someone you don't like, barely showing your feelings, but your heart is empty, and you live a hopeless life every day......"
"Wanwan......" Xu Fenggu saw Jiang Wan crying, her throat was also tight, and she held Jiang Wan's hand.
The tears in Jiang Wan's eyes flowed more and more, and she choked up: "Mother, I beg you, I really don't want to marry Gongzi Xie, please don't ...... it."
Xu Fenggu couldn't see Jiang Wan crying, since she was broken by Li Jincui, her daughter rarely cried. In the past, she was angry and uncomfortable because of something, but it was her daughter who comforted her. Now that my daughter is crying, she is really uncomfortable and very reluctant.
Xu Fenggu hugged Jiang Wan, and also choked up: "Wanwan, don't cry, you cry so much that your mother's heart hurts...... Mother should not, mother should not be, you don't cry......"
Jiang Wan hugged Xu Fenggu back, sobbed and said, "Mother, thank you, I know you are the best for me!" You must be the best in the world...... The best mother! โ
In the matter of persuading Xu Fenggu, Jiang Wan didn't want to mention Pei You, in addition to promising Pei Youniang, she also had a consideration. If she moves out of Pei You, what if she and Pei You won't be together in the future? Xu Fenggu must have blamed herself very much at that time and didn't check for her, because an uncertain Pei You let go of such a good marriage as Gongzi Xie in vain, but as a result, even Pei You's side was gone, and the sesame watermelon was gone. She doesn't want Xu Fenggu to blame herself, she also hopes to tell Xu Fenggu her true thoughts, if there is no love, she won't marry, this is a matter of principle. It's not Pei You, maybe it's someone else, no matter who it is, only if she likes it, she can marry, and she is willing to marry.
She hoped that her mother would understand her thoughts and would be able to understand and agree with her thoughts.
Xu Fenggu, whose eyes were full of tears, couldn't help laughing because of Jiang Wan's words, and at this time, she didn't forget to put on a high hat for herself.
The two cried for a while, and when they had completely stopped, they wiped away their tears, looked at each other, and laughed together.
Xu Fenggu smiled slightly, sighed and said, "Mother, I don't know how you came up with such an idea, did you read too many books?" It's just that since you don't want to, my mother won't force you. My mother always wants you to be good, whether it is in your own house or in your mother-in-law's house, if you don't want to marry, you will only be depressed day by day after marrying, it is better not to marry. โ
"Mother, I've read some books...... But it's not just the book, I just read it. Jiang Wan said, "Mother, I have you and my father, and Xiao Er, even if I eat you at home, you won't starve me to death, right?" In that case, why should I have to marry someone I don't like? โ
Jiang Wan took it for granted that she would gnaw on the old brother, but this was just a casual thing for the time being, she was very sure that she would make money, not only did she not need to gnaw the old, but she would also let the family live a good life in turn.
Xu Fenggu said with a smile: "Most of the silver that our family has saved recently is earned by you. The rest is also because of your mention, speaking of which, your father and I rely on you! โ
"Mother, don't praise me so much, I'm embarrassed." Jiang Wan pretended to cover her face shyly.
Xu Fenggu shook her head with a smile, and soon smiled again: "That mother went out first and went back to her house, so don't come out." โ
"Got it, mother, you go and come back quickly." Jiang Wan waved her hand.
Xu Fenggu walked out of the hall and saw that the matchmaker was looking at her with a blank eye, so she smiled and said: "After all, Gongzi Xie is the son of the county master's family, and my family is just an ordinary farmer, so I can't afford it, so please go back to his house like this." โ
The matchmaker looked shocked, as if she couldn't understand such a good marriage, how could anyone refuse? She had already calculated before she came, this gratuity was easy to come by, just to buy some new furniture for the home, and even she had thought about the placement of the new furniture, she never thought that this family should not be!
The matchmaker smiled shyly: "Sister, what do you mean by this?" Since Mrs. Xie asked me to come, it can be seen that people don't care about your family at all. This is an extremely rare good marriage, I have talked about a lifetime of matchmaking, this is the first time I have said such a good marriage! As the saying goes, there is no such shop after this village, a lover like Gongzi Xie is hard to find with a lantern! โ
"We all know what you said, but please help me get back to this family matter." Xu Fenggu had already cried in the hall, and it was naturally not easy to be persuaded by the matchmaker's words at this time.
The matchmaker was unwilling, and before she could say something, Xu Fenggu โกโก to Jiang: "Little Er, send off!" โ
Jiang Gu listened to his mother's words, and when he heard the words, he immediately blocked the matchmaker's eyes like a mountain and said, "Auntie, go back, my house is going to rest." โ
"Alas, listen to me, you can't push this thing off! That's the county master, everyone is stammering, even if anyone has a daughter who is looked at by the county master to be a concubine, the family must be happy, but now he is a wife to the talented Xie Gongzi, don't be stupid! The matchmaker jumped to her feet and wanted to say something to Xu Fenggu, but Jiang Gu completely blocked her, and pushed her out while blocking it, and when the matchmaker finished speaking, she had already arrived outside the courtyard, only to see the courtyard door slam shut!
"Open the door, open the door! Let me go in and say a couple more, hey, you've got to think it through! The matchmaker slapped the door panel and said loudly.
It's a pity that several people in the door ignored her.
Jiang Wan saw that she had sent people away, so she walked out of the hall.
Liu Caiyun's family is still there, Liu Caiyun, who has witnessed a qiฤ, only feels strange and admired, the son of the county lord's family came to ask for marriage, and said that he would refuse, but she did not have this kind of courage.
Fortunately, Rona was not there at this time, otherwise he would have reacted greatly if he could already understand a little Chinese. He now has a good impression of Xie Chengchou, but in his opinion, Xie Chengchou and Jiang Wan are two friends, and he will be surprised if one friend suddenly proposes to another friend.
Seeing Jiang Wan come out, everyone's eyes moved over.
Jiang Wan snorted and laughed, "What do you all see me doing?" Would you like to help? โ
Seeing Jiang Wan's expression as usual, Xu Fenggu said with a smile: "There are enough people, where can I use you?" With that, she pulled Jiang Funian and Liu Caiyun and went into the kitchen again.
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"Mother, I didn't think so, don't think about it." Jiang Wan held Xu Fenggu's hand tightly, looked at her and said, "It's just...... No matter how good Mr. Xie is, he is not my beloved. โ
Xu Fenggu could feel the strength of Wanwan's clenched hand, looking at her daughter's eyes at the moment, she understood that she was indeed thinking too much, and Wanwan didn't think about it that way.
It's just that she really can't understand why Wanwan, a good family like Gongzi Xie, refuses to marry.
"Wanwan, in our women's lives, we just want to have a good person to spend our lives with. Mother doesn't know where you don't like Gongzi Xie, but in the eyes of my mother, Gongzi Xie is really a rare lover. My mother also knows that your two marriages did not go well before, but you must not be discouraged about getting married because of this. Xu Fenggu held Jiang Wan's hand and persuaded softly.
Jiang Wan said: "Mother, I understand what you mean...... But now I also understand that if there is no man I love, it is better not to marry. Gongzi Xie is good, but I don't like him. Without feelings, I can't bear to marry a man. โ
Jiang Wan's words, in the eyes of this era, are a bit deviant. Marriage has always been the order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker, the village is better, men and women have met or gotten along before getting married, and they know each other, but those who are beautiful in the big family are beautiful and small, but it is very likely that they have not seen her husband before they got married, all thanks to their parents.
Xu Fenggu is just an ordinary member of the crowd, her ideas are in line with the values of the vast majority of people in this era, after all, there are very few people who can admire each other before they get married, and feelings come out after marriage.
"Wanwan, after getting married, you have time to have feelings with Gongzi Xie, and the most important thing before getting married is the man's character." Xu Fenggu persuaded, "A man with good character can treat his wife well after getting married, take care of the family, and become the pillar of the family." Just like your father, he doesn't seem to like to talk on weekdays, but if something big happens, it's your father who has the idea. โ
Jiang Wan didn't speak for a while. She has realized the huge gap between her and Xu Fenggu's concepts, in the past, because of her life, even if Xu Fenggu wanted her to marry, she couldn't find a good family, so she naturally wouldn't force her anything. But now it's different, with a "beloved" like Xie Chengchou appearing, Xu Fenggu naturally feels that she should marry her immediately. If Jiang Wan had come four years ago, and she hadn't had Kefu's order at that time, I am afraid that she would have quarreled with Xu Fenggu because of the issue of marriage. There are some things that have not been encountered, but once encountered, you can find a huge difference in the values of both parties.
Jiang Wan respects Xu Fenggu's mother very much, but she is not willing to marry someone she doesn't like because she respects her. There are still so many decades in her life, how can she survive if she faces a person she doesn't like from now on? Even if her body is a person of this era, she is still her, and her mind is born in the modern era and grew up in the modern era, and will not compromise with this era lightly.
"Mother, I know what you said, and I understand that other women live like this." Jiang Wan looked at Xu Fenggu steadily, her eyes were red, and she burst into tears, "But mother, I really don't want to be like all of them." Marrying someone you don't like, barely showing your feelings, but your heart is empty, and you live a hopeless life every day......"
"Wanwan......" Xu Fenggu saw Jiang Wan crying, her throat was also tight, and she held Jiang Wan's hand.
The tears in Jiang Wan's eyes flowed more and more, and she choked up: "Mother, I beg you, I really don't want to marry Gongzi Xie, please don't ...... it."
Xu Fenggu couldn't see Jiang Wan crying, since she was broken by Li Jincui, her daughter rarely cried. In the past, she was angry and uncomfortable because of something, but it was her daughter who comforted her. Now that my daughter is crying, she is really uncomfortable and very reluctant.
Xu Fenggu hugged Jiang Wan, and also choked up: "Wanwan, don't cry, you cry so much that your mother's heart hurts...... Mother should not, mother should not be, you don't cry......"
Jiang Wan hugged Xu Fenggu back, sobbed and said, "Mother, thank you, I know you are the best for me!" You must be the best in the world...... The best mother! โ
In the matter of persuading Xu Fenggu, Jiang Wan didn't want to mention Pei You, in addition to promising Pei Youniang, she also had a consideration. If she moves out of Pei You, what if she and Pei You won't be together in the future? Xu Fenggu must have blamed herself very much at that time and didn't check for her, because an uncertain Pei You let go of such a good marriage as Gongzi Xie in vain, but as a result, even Pei You's side was gone, and the sesame watermelon was gone. She doesn't want Xu Fenggu to blame herself, she also hopes to tell Xu Fenggu her true thoughts, if there is no love, she won't marry, this is a matter of principle. It's not Pei You, maybe it's someone else, no matter who it is, only if she likes it, she can marry, and she is willing to marry.
She hoped that her mother would understand her thoughts and would be able to understand and agree with her thoughts.
Xu Fenggu, whose eyes were full of tears, couldn't help laughing because of Jiang Wan's words, and at this time, she didn't forget to put on a high hat for herself.
The two cried for a while, and when they had completely stopped, they wiped away their tears, looked at each other, and laughed together.
Xu Fenggu smiled slightly, sighed and said, "Mother, I don't know how you came up with such an idea, did you read too many books?" It's just that since you don't want to, my mother won't force you. My mother always wants you to be good, whether it is in your own house or in your mother-in-law's house, if you don't want to marry, you will only be depressed day by day after marrying, it is better not to marry. โ
"Mother, I've read some books...... But it's not just the book, I just read it. Jiang Wan said, "Mother, I have you and my father, and Xiao Er, even if I eat you at home, you won't starve me to death, right?" In that case, why should I have to marry someone I don't like? โ
Jiang Wan took it for granted that she would gnaw on the old brother, but this was just a casual thing for the time being, she was very sure that she would make money, not only did she not need to gnaw the old, but she would also let the family live a good life in turn.
Xu Fenggu said with a smile: "Most of the silver that our family has saved recently is earned by you. The rest is also because of your mention, speaking of which, your father and I rely on you! โ
"Mother, don't praise me so much, I'm embarrassed." Jiang Wan pretended to cover her face shyly.
Xu Fenggu shook her head with a smile, and soon smiled again: "That mother went out first and went back to her house, so don't come out." โ
"Got it, mother, you go and come back quickly." Jiang Wan waved her hand.
Xu Fenggu walked out of the hall and saw that the matchmaker was looking at her with a blank eye, so she smiled and said: "After all, Gongzi Xie is the son of the county master's family, and my family is just an ordinary farmer, so I can't afford it, so please go back to his house like this." โ
The matchmaker looked shocked, as if she couldn't understand such a good marriage, how could anyone refuse? She had already calculated before she came, this gratuity was easy to come by, just to buy some new furniture for the home, and even she had thought about the placement of the new furniture, she never thought that this family should not be!
The matchmaker smiled shyly: "Sister, what do you mean by this?" Since Mrs. Xie asked me to come, it can be seen that people don't care about your family at all. This is an extremely rare good marriage, I have talked about a lifetime of matchmaking, this is the first time I have said such a good marriage! As the saying goes, there is no such shop after this village, a lover like Gongzi Xie is hard to find with a lantern! โ
"We all know what you said, but please help me get back to this family matter." Xu Fenggu had already cried in the hall, and it was naturally not easy to be persuaded by the matchmaker's words at this time.
The matchmaker was unwilling, and before she could say something, Xu Fenggu โกโก to Jiang: "Little Er, send off!" โ
Jiang Gu listened to his mother's words, and when he heard the words, he immediately blocked the matchmaker's eyes like a mountain and said, "Auntie, go back, my house is going to rest." โ
"Alas, listen to me, you can't push this thing off! That's the county master, everyone is stammering, even if anyone has a daughter who is looked at by the county master to be a concubine, the family must be happy, but now he is a wife to the talented Xie Gongzi, don't be stupid! The matchmaker jumped to her feet and wanted to say something to Xu Fenggu, but Jiang Gu completely blocked her, and pushed her out while blocking it, and when the matchmaker finished speaking, she had already arrived outside the courtyard, only to see the courtyard door slam shut!
"Open the door, open the door! Let me go in and say a couple more, hey, you've got to think it through! The matchmaker slapped the door panel and said loudly.
It's a pity that several people in the door ignored her.
Jiang Wan saw that she had sent people away, so she walked out of the hall.
Liu Caiyun's family is still there, Liu Caiyun, who has witnessed a qiฤ, only feels strange and admired, the son of the county lord's family came to ask for marriage, and said that he would refuse, but she did not have this kind of courage.
Fortunately, Rona was not there at this time, otherwise he would have reacted greatly if he could already understand a little Chinese. He now has a good impression of Xie Chengchou, but in his opinion, Xie Chengchou and Jiang Wan are two friends, and he will be surprised if one friend suddenly proposes to another friend.
Seeing Jiang Wan come out, everyone's eyes moved over.
Jiang Wan snorted and laughed, "What do you all see me doing?" Would you like to help? โ
Seeing Jiang Wan's expression as usual, Xu Fenggu said with a smile: "There are enough people, where can I use you?" With that, she pulled Jiang Funian and Liu Caiyun and went into the kitchen again.