"This ...... What is going on with my dantian? What is the true qi in my body? Is this me dreaming? Is it really me dreaming, otherwise, how can I not feel the true qi in my body? Monkey, you say, am I dreaming? ”

Leng Xin's words were full of madness and panic, his eyes were even more red looking at the monkey in the distance, and a gray look appeared on his face, obviously Leng Xin's heart was completely collapsed now.

Also, any martial artist, no matter which martial artist, will have such a collapse when he knows that his martial arts have been abolished.

When he was accustomed to the powerful power in his body, and the noble status that this power brought him, he suddenly found that he had lost this qiē, and when he encountered such a thing, his heart would collapse in his heart.

Leng Xin is just an ordinary martial artist, so it is understandable that his heart has such a collapsed feeling.

Leng Xin would ask the monkey like this, in fact, he wanted to get some comfort from the monkey and get the answer that he was dreaming, but unfortunately, soon, reality shattered Leng Xin's 'sweet dream'.

"Boss, your martial arts have also been abolished?" The monkey's rhetorical question directly shattered the 'sweet dream' in Leng Xin's heart, and now Leng Xin's face was really gray, and the original vibrant, swarthy hair on his head suddenly began to gray, and the swarthy brilliance disappeared completely, replaced by a gray hair .......

Now Leng Xin gives people a feeling. The whole person looks like a waste.

"Also abolished .......?" Leng Xin repeated this sentence, and then he looked at the monkey with an incredulous expression: "Monkey, you were just so lost. Could it be that your martial arts have also been abolished?"

"Yes, big brother, I just found out that my martial arts were abolished, and my dantian has been shattered, so I was so lost, and I even almost entered the magic disease.

Over here. I have to thank you, big brother, if it hadn't been for that clod of dirt you threw on me, I would probably be in a demon right now. When the time comes, I won't be saved, big brother, thank you!"

The monkey thanked Leng Xin very sincerely this time. Of course. The monkey will apologize so sincerely, maybe Leng Xin also said that his martial arts were abolished, so the monkey's face is much better now, and he is still in the mood to thank Leng Xin.

It is actually very common for monkeys to have such a mentality, which is actually the expression of jealousy.

In modern society, there are countless people with such a mentality, and many people have some jealousy and jealousy in their hearts. I can't see that others are better than myself, especially in this vain society. This kind of jealousy and jealousy mentality is even more common, I believe everyone has experienced such a thing, or seen such a person.

In fact, jealousy can be a kind of 'peacock mentality' for people.

For example, I don't know when you like to compare yourself with others: a colleague buys a designer clothes, and you buy a more expensive one; When a colleague calls in a louder voice, you also deliberately dial a phone and call at a loud voice; And once someone else is better than you in some aspects, your heart is like knocking over the five-flavor bottle, which is very unpleasant...... These are actually a typical "peacock mentality".

The peacock mentality, or peacock mentality, is a kind of winning mentality, a kind of comparison mentality, and this mentality often brings trouble to oneself because of competitiveness, which is also a very common psychological hidden danger in the hearts of modern people.

"Peacock Open Screen" is a very gorgeous and spectacular scene, but it also has the meaning of showing off and domineering.

Once a person has a "peacock mentality" in dealing with others, it is easy to fall into a situation where he is constantly competing for victory, and he often blindly compares in order to be stronger.

Just like the other side of arrogance is inferiority, "peacock psychology" actually stems from deep-rooted insecurity, and society places too much emphasis on success and achievement, which can easily make people have an impetuous psychology and be eager to win.

Nowadays, many people "can't see" that their colleagues are better dressed and used than themselves in the workplace, so these people will try their best to "compare".

For example, in the workplace, they like to compare themselves with others, and women are more prominent in this regard, such as colleagues in the same office who spend 3,000 yuan to buy a brand-name clothing, and many women will spend 5,000 yuan to buy a better one;

saw a colleague wearing a diamond ring, so he pestered his husband to buy a bigger one and go out to show off; Colleagues call in a louder voice, and some women will deliberately dial a phone and call at a louder voice...... Wait a minute.

Of course, not only women have such a mentality, but men actually have it, and they are also very strong, such as old classmates in middle school or college, or even relatives in their own family who bought a car, many men will be very red-eyed, and men with conditions in the family will try their best to buy a car, even if they owe a lot of money for it, they don't care.

If the situation at home does not allow it, and he can't buy a car at present, at this time, the man's mood will be very lost, and even Yan zhòng has not ......recovered for a whole week.

In fact, people have such a mentality of showing off and comparing themselves to "make trouble", that is, the "peacock psychology" in psychology.

This kind of mentality will put oneself in a situation of comparison and competition, and it is blind comparison.

Psychologists say that everyone will face setbacks, blows and all kinds of pressure, and if you are infected with "peacock psychology", it is easy to cause psychological imbalance, which in turn leads to physical and mental diseases.

People who like to compare and have strong self-esteem learn not to be too themselves, relax their spirits, and learn to be content and happy.

"Peacock psychology" is a very common psychological hidden danger in modern people, and it is a kind of inflated vanity in the final analysis.

Vanity psychology refers to a person's borrowing of external, superficial or other people's glory to make up for their own internal and substantial deficiencies, in order to win the attention and respect of others and society, it is a very complex psychological phenomenon.

The philosopher of Lancey once said: "Vanity can hardly be called an evil. However, all evil deeds revolve around vanity, and they are nothing more than a means to satisfy vanity. ”

Of course, people inevitably have some vanity. In fact, everyone's heart is composed of vanity, but if a person's inner vanity is too much, there will be a psychological imbalance, that is, "peacock psychology".

At this time, you may wish to test whether you have detached yourself from reality, so that you have to inflate yourself often to reach the perfect image in your mind.

People with a strong sense of vanity will unconsciously mix selfishness, hypocrisy, fraud and other factors in their thoughts. This is in stark contrast to virtues such as modesty and prudence, fairness, and non-vain.

So how to avoid the "peacock mentality"?

In fact, if you want to defeat the 'peacock mentality', it is very simple, as long as you do the following. Then you can completely defeat the 'peacock mentality' and become a big winner in life!

First, you know the four words of contentment and happiness:

Nine times out of ten, no one can have everything in their life and smooth sailing. The so-called "all the best". It's just a good blessing.

In the workplace, each of us encounters various setbacks and failures, as well as various temptations. If we can be content, we will save ourselves a lot of trouble and trouble.

The second is that you have to have a mortal mentality in your heart:

There are thousands of reasons for happiness in a person's heart, but the reason for unhappiness is relatively concentrated: expecting too much from oneself.

In the workplace, there are always people who think that "the sky has descended on the people", so they set their goals very high and hold the "ambition of the bird". As a matter of fact, there are many goals and lofty ideals that are divorced from personal reality and personal ability. This brings people a constant annoyance.

Therefore, in the workplace, it is best for us to lower our mentality, hold a "mortal mentality", give ourselves a goal that can be achieved, or set the ideal within our own ability, so that we can see hope from our achievements and enjoy the happiness of success.

The third is that you have to set fewer opponents in your heart:

In the workplace, many people like to consciously or unconsciously regard their colleagues as their "opponents" in the workplace, so that they are always in a state of competitive tension. In fact, there are so many opponents in the workplace, and there is no need to put others on the opposite side of yourself all the time.

A real professional should have a peaceful mentality in his heart, change the concept of "opponent" to the concept of "helper", and advocate "harmony is precious", because it is better to walk with strength than before fighting.

In addition, you should see more of your own strengths, and there is no need to use yourself to set other people's life patterns and life trajectories.

Maintaining personal independence and integrity is the foundation of a successful life.

Fourth, you have to learn to be tolerant of others:

A psychologist once said: "People who like to compare often pin their expectations on the closest people around them when their own ability is limited, some have a wife and a husband, and some want their children to become a dragon." ”

Once this kind of "expectation" is not realized, it is bound to bring great disappointment or even disillusionment to the parties concerned.

Everyone has their own life and life trajectory, and the so-called "everyone has their own aspirations", so why do we have to impose our own ideas on others? This is not only unwise, but also unrealistic.

"Don't suffer from the few, but suffer from inequality" is a famous saying of Confucius, which is still applicable in today's society.

When a person is promoted because of his hard work, some people will say cool things behind his back, sourly saying that you have obtained it through a special relationship; when he or she participates in a class reunion and sees others wearing famous brands and driving good cars, his heart will suddenly become empty, and his tone and expression will become unnatural; in the market, many businessmen will not hesitate to suppress their opponents by losing money and reducing prices, and in the end they will lose both...... Wait a minute.

As the old saying goes: "If the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it." "The phenomenon of not being able to see others and pulling people back has existed since ancient times, and it is not uncommon in China today.

Often when interests are involved, this kind of "harming others and not benefiting oneself" will happen, and there are three main reasons for this.

1. Human nature leads to jealousy.

In life, when people see others being better than themselves in some way, they often think that others are better off than themselves, however, this "good" is mostly their own guess, which is easy to make people feel psychologically unbalanced, resulting in jealousy.

Under the influence of jealousy, people with different personalities will have different expressions: someone is motivated. Some people blame themselves and their self-confidence is hit, while others are cautious and have an unbalanced heart. Behind the back, let others go badly, that is, as the saying goes, "pull the back legs";

There are also people who blame those close to them for other people's successes, such as the wife who counts her husband for "not earning as much as the old king next door" (hehe, the old king next door was shot again), thus leading to a discordant family relationship.

All in all, not seeing others better than you is mostly jealous. Of course, the existence of this kind of psychology is normal and is dictated by human nature. Don't make a fuss.

2. Historical heritage brings insecurity.

In the past, the comfortable life of "wife, children, and hot kang head" was the pursuit of most Chinese people, and the sense of security brought by "one acre and three points of land" was real.

Right now. Houses, cars and children have become the ideal of life for Chinese. When you see that others have more houses, better cars, and better children. Insecurity is triggered.

In modern China, internal and external troubles and several national crises have deepened this sense of insecurity. In modern society, the gap between the rich and the poor has widened, social resources are limited, and the distribution is unfair, so that the Chinese people turn this sense of insecurity into hatred of the rich.

For various reasons, the mentality of not being able to see the good of others is deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people, forming a deep-rooted "psychological gene".

3. False education solidifies bad mentality.

The insecurity deeply rooted in the hearts of Chinese people makes parents worry that their offspring will not be treated better in the future, or even unable to gain a foothold.

Therefore, parents cultivate their children's sense of distress from an early age. Compare the strengths of other people's children with the shortcomings of your own children, and hope that your children can learn from each other's strengths.

This practice makes children resistant. And even deeper jealousy.

Such an unreasonable traditional education method is a fertile ground for breeding the mentality of "not seeing the good of others".

Always holding the mentality that you can't see others better than you, not only do you live tired, but also make the people around you uncomfortable, which not only damages the morale of the team, but also makes yourself excluded by the team. This mentality is exacerbated during certain social periods and periods of social change.

With the development of society, this social psychology will inevitably weaken slowly.

For example, the insecurity of the "post-80s" is much weaker than that of their parents, so they dare to fight, dare to break through, and dare to work hard in a strange city.

In modern society, the development is getting faster and faster, and the pace of life is getting faster and faster, therefore, everyone will face setbacks, blows and various pressures at different times and at different points in time.

Therefore, there is no end to showing off and comparing, and showing off and comparing will inevitably lead to happiness forever far away from oneself. If you want to live happily and become a strong person in life, then you must overcome the vanity in your heart and the 'peacock mentality'!

However, having said that, when you are really faced with such a thing, many times, your own heart will be unconsciously affected by this jealousy mentality, and then you will do something that you can't even imagine, and eventually you will make a big mistake that you will regret.

At that time, even if you wake up, it will be too late, the big mistake has been made, and it is already irreparable.

So, when you feel that the jealousy mentality in your heart is about to appear, and you don't want this jealousy mentality in your heart to appear, you can try the following tricks to overcome the jealousy in your heart.

First of all, you have to know clearly that comparison is needed, but comparison is not necessary.

You have to set yourself the right comparison goals, such as comparing yourself to celebrities, and you can't compare them. It is best to compare yourself with yourself, whether your current self is better than before, whether your current self is working harder than yesterday, etc.

Secondly, when you encounter unfairness or an unbalanced mentality due to some trivial things, you should try to calm yourself down, and don't let the "goodness" of others become the fuse of your own unhappiness.

You can try to take a deep breath and tell yourself in time, "The good of others is only what I think is good", "Everyone has a difficult scripture to read", "There is no absolute good or bad in the world", etc.

The other point, and the most important point, is that you have to have confidence in yourself, and you have to believe that as long as you work hard, you can have your own success, and you can become a strong person in life.

Finally, communicate with people close to you. Some people like to be motivated, and some people want to be encouraged, otherwise, blindly touting the former and nitpicking on the latter will be counterproductive.

If you want to become a strong person in life, you want to be a strong person in life, and if you want to really, completely control your life, then you have to overcome the jealousy in your heart, only in this way can your life usher in the rainbow of success.

Leng Xin asked the monkey loudly and repeatedly before, why didn't the monkey answer, and he didn't even react at all, in fact, at this time, it was the jealousy in the monkey's heart that was making trouble, and he was jealous that Leng Xin was still a martial artist.

After the monkey woke up, he checked his physical condition as soon as possible, so the monkey quickly knew that he had lost his martial arts, and the monkey knew that his dantian was completely abolished according to the condition of his body and luck.

In other words, the monkey's martial arts have been abolished, and it is still a very complete abolition. (To be continued......)

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