Chinese tradition emphasizes strict fathers and mothers, and Aunt Xue is a model of loving mothers. Pen & Fun & Pavilion www.biquge.info

Baochai was sick, Baoyu went to Lixiangyuan to visit, Aunt Xue "hurriedly pulled him and hugged him into her arms", and said with a smile: "It's such a cold day, my son, it's hard for you to think about coming, just go to the kang and sit." He also ordered someone to pour "boiling tea" to see this intimacy, just like the boiling heat of tea. Stay to eat, Baoyu wanted to eat goose paws and duck letters, and immediately took some, Baoyu had to inch in, and wanted to drink, Aunt Xue ordered someone to pour some high-quality wine, Mama Li wanted to persuade, and sent it away in a few words: Just eat with confidence, that is, the old lady asked, there are me!

Such a pampered and doting, Baochai with self-control will be virtuous and virtuous, how can Xue Pan, who has no self-control, not grow into a dumb overlord? Xue Pan was beaten, indiscriminately, and he wanted to take people, but fortunately, it was Baochai who persuaded him. The horse without a halter, after all, was raised by himself, no wonder Xue Pan robbed Zhen Yinglian and killed Feng Yuan, regarded it as child's play, and took his mother and sister to get up and go on a long walk.

hugged Xiangyun when the cannon was fired, moved to Xiaoxiang Hall to take care of Daiyu, nagged Xiangling that she would not live, etc., there was no place to see the appearance of a loving mother, and she was so moved that even Daiyu wanted to recognize her mother. Aunt Ci loves to comfort the infatuated, saying that Aunt Xue is sincere, and there are those who say that Aunt Xue hides a knife in her smile.

In fact, how could Aunt Xue be so cunning, if she had, she would not be able to tolerate Jin Gui's presumptuousness. In Jiafu, I talked about the good relationship of gold and jade, I wanted to climb a good family business for my daughter, and it was just the duty of a loving mother, and when it came to jokes, I comforted it casually, but I forgot about it and didn't mention it again. With Daiyu's sensitivity, she doesn't think it's a lie, and the suspicion is a bit far-fetched, just as Aunt Xue said: "You are a multi-hearted person who thinks like this." I don't have that in mind. ”

Xue Pan is a model for pampered children. Seeing the mother and son crying sadly together, I can't help but sigh that it is really a mother and son.

Not only does she play the role of threading the needle in the book, but her unique attitude towards life is also vividly described in the book.

She and Mrs. Wang both doted on their sons very much, but at critical moments, she often lacked Mrs. Wang's courage to "kill and decide". Xue Pan does whatever she wants outside and has no scruples, which has a lot to do with Aunt Xue's consistent "doting and conniving" (the fourth round); She also dotes on her daughter very much, but Xue Baochai accepts the gentle side of her mother's personality, and develops into a characteristic of hiding her edge when she is obedient. Aunt Xue not only pampered her own children, but also gave to others. Once Mama Li stopped Baoyu from drinking, she told Baoyu "Don't be afraid", it doesn't matter if you are drunk. She also often went to see Daiyu, and lived with Daiyu for a period of time, and recognized Daiyu as her goddaughter, so that Daiyu "is pitiful and has no father and mother, and has no relatives in the end" (the fifty-seventh chapter), and half-jokingly wanted to tell Daiyu to Baoyu, and said that this "is not all four corners", and hugged Daiyu while talking, very affectionate. Although this is just a manifestation of her pity and pandering, it is definitely not to deceive Daiyu. This time, "Aunt Ci's love words comfort the infatuated", "kindness" is indeed an important feature of Aunt Xue's character. Of course, about this important plot, some people think that Aunt Xue's pity for Daiyu is true, and it is even more true to test Daiyu, because the first half of the fifty-seventh episode is "Hui Zijuan's love to try to busy jade", Baoyu's love for Daiyu has become an indisputable fact, and Aunt Xue is absolutely determined to maintain Eryu's love to continue to develop, so she wants to see if Daiyu and Yu Baoyu have true feelings.

Due to the early death of her husband, only orphans and widows remain. And this orphan Xue Pan boss has no success, only knows how to be hedonistic and flashy, does nonsense, is extremely unlucky, only in the household department to hang a false name, everything is handled by the manager, guys, etc., these people take the opportunity to abduct, and the Xue family's business is gradually depleted. There is no gold outside, and the inside is naturally empty. Since her son is like this, Aunt Xue has to pin her hopes on her daughter Xue Baochai.

Not long after Lin Daiyu lived in Rongguo Mansion, Aunt Xue's family was ushered in in Jiafu, and since then they have lived in Lixiangyuan in Jiafu.

Next, this Baochai considers marriage, and Baoyu is naturally the best candidate. This is not Aunt Xue's wishful thinking, but the author's incarnation of a leper monk single-handedly facilitated. In the past, it was the order of the parents to marry their children, and Baoyu's mother agreed to it and was very willing. And Aunt Xue looks at Baoyu as a talent, and she is smart and beautiful, a hundred times stronger than her son, so she is naturally worthy of Baochai. For the daughter, the aunt is the mother-in-law, so she will naturally not be angry, and the Jia Mansion is stronger than the Xue family, which will naturally benefit the Xue family. This kind of consideration is good for Baochai and the Xue family.

Aunt Xue and Mrs. Yu Wang were naturally happy. So Aunt Xue and her daughter often lived in Jiafu. Aunt Xue became Jia's mother's card friend, and coaxed the old lady to be happy with Sister Feng and Mrs. Wang. Closer to the upper echelons of Jiafu. And Baochai has won unanimous praise from top to bottom with its atmospheric and steady demeanor.

At the beginning, everything went well, Jia's mother gave Baochai a beautiful birthday, and the Duanyang Festival gift given by Concubine Yuan was the same as Baoyu's. The situation is very good, and the Xue family is naturally happy. But then Baochai offended Jia's mother because of her insistence on self and too much personality, and she was increasingly ignored.

So Aunt Xue wanted to let go. She didn't want to wronged her daughter, so at Daiyu, she said that Eryu was a good marriage. It's not necessarily all a joke, it's not as good as an adult at this time.

Aunt Xue and Mrs. Wang initially had the same idea, wanting to fulfill Jin Yuzhi's theory, but in the end she still wanted to let go. Because she spoils the child more than Mrs. Wang, she doesn't want to wronged the child. Mrs. Wang cares about Baoyu's reputation and future, but Aunt Xue cares more about Baochai's happiness, so she supports Eryu's marriage.

The most humane elders

The only humane elder is Aunt Xue, she is not smart, and she is a bit vulgar, which can be seen from the name of the maid. Mother Jia's maids are called Pearl and Amber, Mrs. Wang's is called Jin Chuan and Yuchuan, and Aunt Xue's maids are called Tongxi and Tonggui. She is still a little stingy and verbose, Xiangling and the little girl fight grass, and were pushed to the water's edge during the play, staining the pomegranate skirt, this material is particularly undyed, Baoyu is worried about her, and said, "Auntie, the old man's mouth is broken, spare this, I also hear that you often say that you don't know how to live, you will only spoil things, and you don't know how to cherish the blessings." This made my aunt see it, and she couldn't tell it. But because of this, it seems to be kind, and we all seem to have such an aunt, nagging and stingy at the same time, but also with unforgettable kindness.

Baoyu went to see Baochai, Aunt Xue left him to eat, and took his bad goose paw duck letter and tasted it with him, Baoyu proposed that this should be wine, Aunt Xue immediately poured the best wine, Mama Li came out to stop it, Aunt Xue laughed and scolded her for being "old", saying that if the old lady asked, what about me. Mama Li was still not at ease, and offered the banner of the old man at home, listening to Baoyu very uncomfortable, Aunt Xue still stood by Baoyu's side, and said, "Don't be afraid, don't be afraid, my son!" If you don't have anything good to eat here, don't bluff this idea in your heart, it makes me uneasy. Just eat with confidence, I've got you. When I went to dinner, I got drunk, so I slept with me."

During the days when she lived with Daiyu, she took good care of the soup and water, and she was so moved that Daiyu and Baochai called her "Mom" together. Sensitive as Daiyu, a look can judge the truth and falsehood, it is impossible to be fooled by a hypocritical tenderness, everything can be adulterated, but maternal love is difficult to adulterate.

If this is not enough to believe, it also means that Aunt Xue's acting skills are too high, and in the face of the little girls, she should show her true face. In the forty-seventh time, Jia's mother was angry because Jia Yu wanted to marry a mandarin duck, Aunt Xue and others were afraid of hindering Mrs. Xing's face, so they withdrew, and after a while, Jia's mother was in a better mood, and asked the little maid to invite Aunt Xue to come over to play cards, but Aunt Xue was reluctant to go, saying that you just said that I had slept. The little maid was coquettish and said, "Good dear aunt wife, aunt ancestor!" Our old lady is angry, your old man doesn't go, there is no one to open up, just hurt us, your old man is tired, I carried your old man to go. Aunt Xue replied kindly: "Little ghost, what are you afraid of?" But a few words of scolding are over." This one-on-one answer is so unusual, whether it is Mrs. Wang, Mrs. Xing or even Mother Jia, they will never talk to the little maid in this tone, Aunt Xue's motherly tenderness is everywhere.

Although she is used to children, she is still a little sober and calm, she knows what kind of character her son is, and she didn't tell Xue Pan about the good girl Xing Xiuyan, which is really good, otherwise Mrs. Xing and Xiuyan's parents will never disagree, in that era of paying attention to the words of the matchmaker of parents, Xiuyan's life will be over.

A loving mother

The word "Ci" runs through the entire character of Aunt Xue. Aunt Xue is a model for a loving mother.

To Xue Pan. She is so doting that she makes Xue Pan a cockfighting lackey, lawless, and self-motivated, and the killing of Feng Yuan is a circumstantial evidence that Aunt Xue did not educate Xue Pan well. Living in Rongfu, she wants to rely on Jia Zheng to control her, but Jia Zheng really lacks education methods, one Baoyu is enough for him to worry, so do you still remember her son? After Baoyu was beaten, Aunt Xue spoke loudly when she taught Xue Pan, so that Baochai persuaded "Mom, don't shout with your brother, if you stop and stop, there will be a green and white thing", she was so angry, Xue Pan still contradicted one sentence at a time. Looking at the mother and son of Baoyu and Mrs. Wang, even if Qingwen was driven away by Mrs. Wang's illness, she didn't see Baoyu say a word, which shows how much Baoyu is afraid of Mrs. Wang. In contrast, a mother like Aunt Xue is amiable, noisy or loud, and there is no distance after that, maybe this is the mother and son. Later, Xue Pan married Jin Gui, Jin Gui sprinkled Lai, and Aunt Xue didn't care about Jin Gui, but she just "secretly wept and complained about her life", looking back at Jiafu, whether it was Mrs. Xing or Mrs. Wang, Sister Feng or Li Kun, which one dared to do this to her mother-in-law? Aunt Xue is not insidious enough, how can an insidious person be so unable to rectify her daughter-in-law?

In order for her daughter to have a good home, she would rather give up living comfortably in her own home, coaxing Jia's mother to be happy all day long, there was a scene when Baochai was angry with her brother and cried, Aunt Xue also cried when she saw her daughter's grievances, and said to Baochai, "Don't be wronged, wait for me to punish him, who do I count on if you want to have a good one", it can be seen how deep her love for her daughter is, a woman's family, if she wants her daughter to glorify her ancestors, there is no other way, the first choice is to be elected to the palace, become a concubine or princess, the county lord's admission attendant, as a talent, praise the good position, Glorious lintel, followed by the only way to marry a rich and powerful family. So who is Aunt Xue's favorite son-in-law of Chenglong? So Jia Baoyu was chosen. Sure enough, not long after entering Jiafu, Baochai's golden lock was known to everyone. Golden Lock and Baoyu's jade are paired in pairs. This is really a kind of public opinion preparation, otherwise how can the objects worn by a girl's family be displayed casually? First of all, Aunt Xue's acquiescence has to be. Aunt Xue's hopes were not disappointed, who would have thought that what Baoyu would never forget was the "Mushi Qianmeng", indifferent to the "golden and jade good relationship" that had been achieved, and finally abandoned home. Aunt Xue wants to find a good home for her daughter, there is really nothing to blame, think about it if Jia Min is alive, will she do something for her daughter? Is there a mother in the world who doesn't think about her daughter?

She loves her own children and takes care of other people's children, her son is worried about her nephew's marriage before she gets married, she came forward to promote the marriage of Xue Zhen and Xiuyan, so that the two good children have a good marriage. She took care of Daiyu and recognized her as her daughter, and she was good to Xiangling, not letting Xue Pan and Jin Gui bully her, and treating Baoqin like her own daughter. [1]

A kind and easy-going old man

The first thing is that the mandarin duck refused to be a concubine, and made a fuss in front of Jia's mother. Mother Jia was angry, and was laughed at by Sister Feng, and wanted to play cards at the moment. Aunt Xue just came home and refused to go, and the girl Huan laughed and said: Good aunt, if you can't go, I'll carry you and wait, but in the end she said that Aunt Xue was moved, so she had to take a trip. - Baochai is peaceful and peaceful, it is estimated that there are few people who talk to her like this.

The second is when I married Xing Xiuyan. This girl is not for money or power, but she is stable and peaceful. Xue Zhen is naturally not the most authentic branch of the Xue family, but the marriage is decided by Aunt Xue, and Xue Pan is such an overlord, it is estimated that the clan also has high hopes for Xue Zhen. This doesn't care about it, just say that Aunt Xue originally promised Xue Pan, but she was afraid of delaying the girl's point, in more popular words, you can get a glimpse of her more civilian characteristics, and after the family affair is decided, Aunt Xue is a guest and should be polite, but she is "indispensable", so You Shi looked at Mrs. Xing's intentions everywhere.

The third piece, Yihong Courtyard Night Banquet. Baoyu wanted to invite Baoqin, and everyone's first reaction shocked Li Kun that it was really "chattering", and hesitated. I wanted to invite Sister Lin and Sister Bao, but I didn't hesitate, Aunt Xue was living in Xiaoxiang Pavilion. Aunt Xue not only let people come over, but also did a very considerate thing, and sent someone to pick up Daiyu in the middle of the night. During the day of the night banquet, she also said a very touching sentence. On Baoyu's birthday, the elders in the house all went out because of the funeral of the concubine, and the big guys gathered together to make trouble, and invited Aunt Xue for the sake of politeness, but she was very interested in the old man, and said: I am from heaven to earth, and I don't fit your group. - Hide away by yourself and go crookedly (Baochai language).

Fourth, Xue Wenqi regretted marrying Hedong Lion. This Aunt Xue has an independent marriage and helps her son to be blind, which is rare. But it's also a good match. The osmanthus Xia family is also a merchant family.

In the fifth, Aunt Xue and her daughter-in-law quarreled. I can't mix people, I only have to be angry and trembling, and I want to sell Xiangling. When a mother-in-law gets to this, she only has the share of being bullied, and she probably has no scheming and can only be verbose.

In the sixth case, Xue Pan was beaten by Liu Xianglian. She is also very humane in this paragraph, her baby son was beaten, she was angry, she wanted to beat and kill, scolded and scolded, and poured a few basins of cold water on Baochai, and she was also sensible, knowing that her son should suffer this loss. The son was rescued by Liu Xianglian on the road, so he also forgot the old grievances, and was lively to do a happy event for his marriage. It's another cold word to Baochai. A bodhisattva who is a little kind to others. - Just like the old ladies who can be found all over the streets.

In "Dream of Red Mansions", there are not many words about Aunt Xue, but she is a very important character, because the so-called golden and jade good relationship has a very close relationship with her.

Aunt Xue is a representative and typical of thousands of Chinese mothers. Her love is equated with doting. There are two types of loving mothers: one is the love that takes their children in their mouths and is fearful, which is actually doting. Xue Pan is the masterpiece of this kind of mother; The other is to put children into society to temper, which is true love.

Aunt Xue's "kindness" is simply a kind of harmful "kindness". Her son Xue Pan became the "dumb overlord". Doing whatever she wants outside and having no scruples has a lot to do with Aunt Xue's consistent "doting and conniving". Xue Pan beat someone to death outside, the mother just wanted her son to escape the punishment of the law, but she didn't hear a word of criticism from her son.

This is Aunt Xue's connivance with her son. If Xue Baochai hadn't had a sober mind and persuaded her mother, wouldn't Liu Xianglian really be wanted everywhere? The result of this will only make Xue Pan more arrogant. Facts have proved that Xue Pan has been much more restrained since then, and he seems to be really doing business. This is determined by Aunt Xue's attitude towards the world, fortunately, she also has an obedient and sensible daughter Xue Baochai, in her own words, this daughter has caused her a lot of troubles. It's just very strange that Aunt Xue's kindness didn't harm her daughter Xue Baochai, so it can be seen that whether she was hurt by kindness or not, the key is to see if the individual has cultivated.

Aunt Xue's love is actually just the feelings of an ordinary mother, and some things are a little vague in the face of the principle of right and wrong as long as they involve her children. This is different from her sister Mrs. Wang, who also dotes on her son very much, but in the face of the principle of right and wrong, Mrs. Wang is often very decisive. As long as her mother was angry, Jia Baoyu ran away. Qingwen's case is an example, but unfortunately it is an unjust case.

If it is said that pampering Jia Baoyu is just following the "trend" of Jiafu, then in the later text, the royal old concubine Xue is allowed to enter the court every day according to the system of Jiafu's dependents. There is no owner in the family to manage family affairs, so he asked Aunt Xue to take care of Lin Daiyu and others. Aunt Xue loved Lin Daiyu the most, so she simply moved to Xiaoxiang Pavilion to live temporarily. is very attentive to Lin Daiyu's "one-time medicine bait diet", which makes Lin Daiyu, who lacks maternal love, feel very cordial and inexhaustible. Sensitive as Lin Daiyu, one look can know the authenticity of Aunt Xue's love. Aunt Xue used her love to win the heart of Lin Daiyu, who is also extremely sensitive to human feelings. Lin Daiyu actually called her mother like Xue Baochai. At the same time, he is commensurate with Xue Baochai and Xue Baoqin sisters, "like compatriots together".

Looking closely at the words about Aunt Xue in the book, we can see a middle-aged woman with a little warmth, easy-going, motherly heart, and vulgar in the world, earning her own life, but also really loving and caring about her children's feelings. Aunt Xue is very popular in the house, and she doesn't bully others just because she is a relative of Mrs. Wang, she is always approachable, and she is good to her friends, she is the most amiable and powerful wife in the whole book.

Most of the middle-aged women in Cao Gong's pen don't give people a good impression, Mrs. Xing is greedy for money and doesn't care about her son and daughter, Mrs. Wang is too ruthless, she is so ruthless to Yahuan, she died a Qingwen and Jin Chuan, she is extremely selfish, she only thinks about Baoyu, other people's children are not children, Aunt Zhao is even worse, and a Taoist woman wants to kill Baoyu and Sister Feng, she is inconsiderate to Tanchun and knows how to make trouble, and her son Jia Huan is not good at education, and has become a son-in-law who does not do his job.

It can be said that Aunt Xue is a lovely elder in "Dream of Red Mansions", but she cannot be regarded as a qualified mother.