What does a qualified ancient lady look like?

The so-called lady show, broadly speaking, is the daughter of a wealthy family, only representing her background, but strictly speaking, at least she must have both good character and appearance, and be good. There is no clear standard for how good it is, but there are still a lot of differences.

Talent and appearance are easy to understand, talented and good-looking, and this talent does not only refer to literary talent.

In ancient times, generally speaking, if you can marry a lady, you will never marry an ordinary woman, but the reason is simple, two words, inheritance.

The ancients said that a woman is virtuous if she is not talented. The original intention of this sentence has never been to say that women do not need to learn or need talent, but to demand more attention to virtue. Because throughout history, one of the requirements for an absolutely qualified wife is that she must have a certain talent.

Every qualified lady has to start learning from the time she is sensible, and her teacher is her mother in most cases, and the content of learning, in addition to the main behavior of women and women, is the female red of Chinese women from generation to generation.

Women's red includes needlework, weaving, embroidery, patchwork, applique embroidery, flower cutting, pulp dyeing, sewing and other aspects of needlework.

Ingenuity, this is definitely the most basic requirement, when the ancients said that when they were pro, the south took a fancy to whether the female red was good or not, most of the time it even exceeded the appearance. And women from wealthy families often have a long family existence, and the skills that can be passed down from generation to generation are becoming more and more perfect.

Is that enough? It's not even close!

As the old saying goes, the male protagonist is outside the female protagonist. In ancient times, although men were superior to women, they did form a set of harmonious ways for husband and wife to deal with things under this system, and the male protagonist and the female protagonist were the best interpretation.

The male protagonist will not mention it for the time being, just talking about the female protagonist, the things contained in it are more than a star and a half, the bigger the family business, as a wife, the more things she needs to worry about.

From the beginning of marriage, the 'husband' is the first job, which includes clothes, shoes and hats on foreign objects, as well as euphemistic persuasion of the husband's bad aspects, and is gentle and gentle, not messing around. A smart woman will never easily annoy her husband.

Followed by filial piety to in-laws, since ancient times, the land of China, will pay attention to filial piety first, filial piety, must not be perfunctory.

Then there is the handling of personnel relations, every New Year's holiday, how to give gifts, need to be carefully calculated, neither can make people feel stingy, nor can they make people feel that you have money to put on the score, and you must not lose the number of courtesies, unless the husband has another reason to explain, otherwise it is handled by the wife of the eldest woman.

The wife and wife are in charge of the family's treasury, the housekeeper should be a slave, and the family should take care of the family's land and even the family business, so in this way, not only in the personnel, but also in the arithmetic, a certain foundation is inevitably needed.

When the children are born in the family, since the daughter will pass on what she has learned again, and if it is a male baby, its real enlightenment teacher is often its mother, and she must begin to instill the truth of being a human being when she is young, so as to lay a good foundation for formal education in the future.

Children, it's all fun, who doesn't have a toy or something? And at this time, the dexterous side is shown again, and a simple strip can be woven into a bird, or something else.

In addition, it is to treat people and things, behave properly and elegantly, speak gently and politely, and pay attention to etiquette. As for how the poem is and what the article is, it is indeed not necessary, but at this time, it can also be regarded as a plus.

In short, all kinds of addition, this requirement is not generally low, but in fact, many ancient women can do this, just perfect or not, if in the future who can be interesting such a woman, I am afraid that I will wake up laughing when I dream, of course, I can't judge the women of later generations according to such standards, after all, the times are different.

And as the perfection of a series of guidelines and even the founder of Ban Zhao, uh-huh, persuasion or something, it can be regarded as a good job. Besides, it's not a big aspect of persuading Zhou Shaoyu, so far, it's just for ordinary words and deeds, and the requirements are not high, just be more restrained. In this way, Zhou Shaoyu has naturally corrected a lot in these aspects.

However, the reverse impact is not far from the same, compared to the rules and regulations at the beginning, after a period of travel, Ban Zhao is no longer so one-of-a-glance, in the end, when he goes out, many times, it is impossible to pay attention to so much, and it is logical that there are changes.

And the scenery outside the plug, desolate atmosphere, will have a certain impact on people's mood. This kind of impact may be relatively small for later generations, after all, in the era of the information explosion, even if you haven't been there, at least you can see the photos, where is it, how much there is a bottom, unlike ancient times, the news is blocked, and it is difficult to understand it.

At this time, during the reign of Emperor Xianzong of the Eastern Han Dynasty Liu Zhuang Yongping, following Liu Xiu's opening of the Eastern Han Dynasty and the creation of Guangwu Zhongxing, Emperor Ming of the Han Dynasty and Emperor Zhang of the Han Dynasty also created the rule of Mingzhang.

Outside the plug, it is in dire straits.

In 45 AD, Xianbei followed the Xiongnu to invade the border, and Xianbei was known to the Central Plains Dynasty as a national entity. At the beginning of 46 years, serious disasters began to occur in the grasslands, drought, locusts, human and animal hunger, and most of the deaths. In 48 years, the eight tribes of the Xiongnu jointly established the grandson of the Huhan evil Shan Yu to chase the king as a single Yu, and the Punu Shan Yu fought against each other, and the Xiongnu was divided into two parts.

Well, Hu Han Evil Shan Yu is the one who married Wang Zhaojun.

If it is pushed back more than 30 years, the Northern Xiongnu, who were hit by the Eastern Han Dynasty and the Southern Xiongnu, were forced to move to Central Asia, and the Xianbei people took the opportunity to occupy the grassland, and in one fell swoop counterattack was no longer a vassal of the Xiongnu, and directly became the largest force in the north.

As for the moment, Xianbei doesn't dare to make big moves, but it's not honest anymore.

In such a state, for the increasingly powerful Central Plains Dynasty, it is natural that he will not be easily offended, which also makes Zhou Shaoyu not suffer any blows even if he only waits for a weak female flow like Ban Zhao to enter the grassland, and if he meets a nomadic tribe, he will even be warmly entertained.

The nomadic people of the grassland, their customs are naturally very different from the Central Plains, Zhou Shaoyu, who has been in contact with the Huns several times, is familiar with this, and soon became a guest of honor. In this regard, Ban Zhao was very angry.

With Ban Zhao's temperament, he is by no means a jealous person, and if necessary, he will definitely take the initiative to take a concubine for Zhou Shaoyu without hesitation, but this is not the same thing as messing around on the grassland. Traveling to a foreign tribe and traveling, it would be a little uncomfortable to really accept a foreign woman as a sister, not to mention that this kind of cool approach to finishing things strongly impacted Ban Zhao's three views, which was absolutely unacceptable, fortunately, Zhou Shaoyu was very honest, which made her a lot satisfied.

Nonsense, how beautiful is it to be a Turkic girl? Not everyone grows up like Ainul. What's more, ordinary Turkic women don't love cleanliness like Ainur, and the smell on their bodies alone is not very unbearable, let alone anything else, of course, this is also related to other people's customs, so they don't pay attention to hygiene or anything if they don't tell the truth.

After all, Zhou Shaoyu is not a person who lacks girls, so he is not so hungry and thirsty, as for the so-called exotic girls, cough, forget it.

Besides, even if there are no such miscellaneous reasons, Zhou Shaoyu can't accept it, how to say that he is with Ban Zhao by his side, and due respect is inevitable.

Now that I have come to the grassland, I have to tell the story of Zhaojun's exit from the fortress, at this point in time, Zhaojun's exit from the fortress is only a hundred years, and it is only thirty or forty years since her death.

According to the record of the Book of the Later Han Dynasty, Zhaojun invited himself to go out. However, this year, even the "Book of Han" has not come out, let alone the "Book of the Later Han". Regarding the statement of asking for self-exertion, Ban Zhao disagrees.

Originally, Wang Zhaojun was just a little Han palace maid, and the diplomatic relations between the two countries were important, when would it be the turn of a little palace maid to intervene? Isn't it nonsense?

Therefore, in the "Book of Han" of Ban Gu and Ban Zhao, there is no record at all that it is said that Zhaojun invited himself out of the plug.

Originally, Zhou Shaoyu took the initiative to talk about Wang Zhaojun's story, that is, to find a topic related to the grassland and the Central Plains, but he never thought about it but caused controversy. Ban Zhao supported this harmony, but Zhou Shaoyu disagreed.

It is true that in terms of national affairs, if you can sacrifice a woman's happiness in exchange for temporary peace, it does have its merits, but on the contrary, Wang Zhaojun is also really pitiful.

As one of the four beauties of China, she actually married away and lived a miserable life, and the customs of the grassland, women can be inherited......

After the death of Hu Han Yedan, Wang Zhaojun wrote back to China, hoping to return to the Central Plains, however, is it possible?

And for the ancient woman, to be able to come back with such a letter and ask for such a thing is already a testament to her misery in the Turks.

Three thousand miles of wind and rain, and the flesh and blood homeland are thrown together. Fear of crying and ruining the old age. Sue my father and mother, and leave my son in suspense. Since ancient times, the poor have all been determined, and there is no chance for clutching? From now on, they will be divided into two places, each of which shall be safe. Slave go, don't implicate.

This sentence was written by Jia Tanchun in the Red Chamber when he got married, and how applicable it is to Wang Zhaojun.

However, this still does not persuade Ban Zhao, sympathy is sympathy, but he still thinks that national affairs should be the first. Zhou Shaoyu shrugged his shoulders, even if he gave in and stopped arguing, this kind of thing is already reasonable, it can't be said right or wrong, there is no need to argue endlessly and hurt the feelings and anger. You can't just say something like, 'If you change at this time, you need to go and kiss you or not?' That's a hole in the brain.

In general, the trip went well, but Ban Zhao fell ill halfway through and delayed for some time, which also made Zhou Shaoyu have to compress his time and return early. In order to maintain the freshness, the way back is not the way to come, but to go around the state and then south, through Luoyang and then back to the village.

When he passed Luoyang, the year had already turned the page, and he had already entered 59 AD, and at this time, a major event occurred in the court, which also made Zhou Shaoyu suddenly remember one thing.

Liu Shou, the daughter of Liu Xiu, the founding emperor of the Eastern Han Dynasty, was named Princess Liyi, and later married Yin Feng, a descendant of the Yin family. This little couple doesn't get along well, and they quarrel at every turn.

And this time, arguing and arguing, Liu Shou is angry, what does it probably mean, it's MMP, provoke the old lady, I don't know if the old lady is a princess, what can you do with the old lady, come and come, you have the ability to cut me!

So Yin Feng is also on fire, MMP, what's wrong with the princess, Lao Tzu is also the future Hou Ye. Decisively, the head is hot, and the hula is knifed.

Ahh What a princess, she actually hung up like this!

In other words, the princess died at the hands of a colt, which is also rare in the entire history of China.

My sister was slaughtered, do you say that Liu Zhuang, who became the emperor, is annoyed? It doesn't matter if you are in the yin family or not, leaving a whole corpse is considered to give you face, come on, go and destroy that guy!

Well, that's about it.

But this also reminded Zhou Shaoyu of the problem.

Yin family, Liu Xiu said, marry a wife should marry Yin Lihua, this Yin family is naturally Yin Lihua's Yin family. However, the problem is that Yin Lihua has been hooked up by Zhou Shaoyu, well, it's not right to say that, other girls may be said to be hooking up, but Yin Lihua, it was completely forcibly abducted and snatched!

cough cough, in short, Zhou Shaoyu did not deal with the aftermath of this matter, and basically handed it over to Xiujin to deal with the aftermath. Liu Xiu, the son of the plane, still married a woman from the Yin family, and it is not good that the woman is still called Yin Lihua.

More importantly, who is the Queen Mother today!? Yin Lihua...... People still have a few years to live, and although it must be a replacement, it always feels a little weird. If it weren't for this matter, it would not be appropriate for Ban Zhao to see other girls, and Zhou Shaoyu would really have a bad taste and pull Yin Lihua over to take a look at the excitement.

Eh, but forget it if you think about it, even if Ban Zhao is no longer there, it is estimated that he will still give up, there are not many girls who make Zhou Shaoyu feel guilty, Yin Lihua bears the brunt, who let Zhou Shaoyu be abducted by force, it is useless with any technical content, it is simply too LO.

Brought back to Anling, Zhou Shaoyu resigned again, but the reason was simple, the official seal he exposed in Cao Shou was a loose rank, and he had no real position, so he could use this as an excuse to leave for a while in the name of going to Luoyang to run for officials.

This is a big deal, and Ban Zhao naturally will not object.

That is, Cao Xiaogu's opinion is great, you have been gone for nearly half a year, and now it is easy to wait for the meeting, but it turns out that you are going to leave again non-stop? Not with such. As for Ban Zhao staying at home, it is not uncommon for Cao Xiaogu to be at home, I don't know if the two of them do not agree with each other?

No matter how you say it, she can be regarded as a righteous sister, a lively and cute little girl, Zhou Shaoyu is kind and coaxing, all kinds of good words come out, and there are a lot of small gifts and promises, but they are not eggs, and people are angry.

There's no way, no matter how angry you are, you can only come back and talk about it, when the time comes, Zhou Shaoyu should also return to Daliang to take a look, you can't always be trapped in Chang'an Palace, how depressed it is.