"Mom, does this kid recognize people?

Why don't you cry when you hug her, maybe it's because you took care of her for the first month, but I didn't breastfeed her less, doesn't the old saying say that having milk is a mother? ”

Liu Xiaoyun felt extremely depressed.

Her mother has only taken care of the child for a month, and she has not been with the child all the time in that month, and she still has to do the breastfeeding, and she has been with the child for half a year, why hasn't her mother come to kiss her.

It's unfair.

"You're too hot-tempered.

Once the child cries and makes noise, you will be angry, although you say that you did not hit the child, but your tone will obviously change, although the child does not understand human speech, but the perception of tone is still there.

For example, a dog can't understand human speech.

Then if you speak harshly about it, it will also be afraid.

Children are actually similar, the more anxious you are, the louder your voice will be, the more irritable your temper will be, the more scared your child will be, how can you stop crying?

A child cannot be obedient from birth.

There has to be a learning process.

Your temper has to be changed, if the mother is too strong and the temper is too violent, the child may be relatively closed and timid, and you will have nothing to do in the future to recite the meditation mantra, the ice heart mantra or something.

I originally thought that girls with strong tempers and personalities would not suffer too much in marriage.

Now, it doesn't all seem right.

You won't suffer in marriage, but in terms of parenting, I'm afraid it's not appropriate.

You still have to learn.

It just so happens that I came back to help you take care of the child, you take the time to sign up for a parenting class, listen to what the teacher says, and at the same time communicate with the parents of other children, communicate and communicate, so that it should be a little good for you, you don't have to be busy with work, wait for the child to go to kindergarten. ”

Qiao Mu really didn't think about parenting at first, because she felt that under normal circumstances, after giving birth to a mother, a mother should theoretically be overflowing with motherhood, and then her temper should naturally ease up, and she didn't need to be taught at all.

However, her daughter apparently did not.

What should it be or what should it be?

Motherhood is not overflowing, first disgusted.

Therefore, it can only be carefully persuaded.

Hopefully her daughter will listen.

"Mom, you're exaggerating.

What kind of parenting class, it's all a scam, I have nothing to do with that thing, I might as well get in touch with work in advance and return to work as soon as possible, I've been estranged from the world for nearly a year, and I don't go out to work quickly.

In two years, I'll be a caveman.

Who wants me then?

In these years, every industry has to keep up with the trend, and you have to continue to learn and progress, if I really stay at home with my children for five years and then go out, and find a good job, no company wants to have a woman who has been derailed with the times for five years.

Mom, times are different.

At that time, you could work in a factory for a lifetime, but now, the company that stayed there may collapse one day, and at the same time, cheap college students are constantly competing with us for jobs.

If we don't fight, we will be left behind.

If our family only relies on Dijia to work alone to earn wages, the ability to resist the crisis is too low, once he is unemployed, I am afraid that it will not be long before we can not pay off the mortgage.

As long as dual-income families are not unlucky enough to be laid off, they can still survive.

You say, don't you?

I work now, even if I can only get a salary of 5,000 yuan a month, it can be regarded as an insurance, and I can save a little more money every month, not to mention, it is not easy to have a life without money in my hand.

I don't want to ask Dijia for groceries. ”

Liu Xiaoyun was dissatisfied with some of Qiao Mu's remarks, and immediately refuted them with reason.

It's hard to say right or wrong.

It can only be said that it is a matter of thinking for two generations.

On the one hand, it is to seek stability, and on the other hand, it is to seek development.

On the one hand, they are only thinking about the present, and on the other hand, they are already thinking about possible future crises.

In fact, it is safer for small couples like them, whose parents can't provide much help, to go to work.

After all, it is normal to be unemployed these years, and ordinary employees dare not guarantee that their position can be kept forever, or even that the unit they work for can persevere.

Which international financial crisis.

A large number of companies must not be toppled.

International giants can collapse.

And even more so ordinary small companies.

A few accounts are confiscated, a project is wrong, or a certain capital chain is suddenly broken, then it may collapse instantly.

"Well, what you say is also true.

But I'm just worried that both of you and you will go to work and spend less time with your children.

Forget it, you can go to work if you want.

But don't look for those classes that work seventeen or eighteen hours a day, it's best to come back in time every day at noon and evening to have lunch with the child, dinner or something, if you go to those classes that go out early and return late every day, the child may not be able to see you once a month, I don't want the child to stay up until twelve o'clock every day just to see you. ”

Although Qiao Mu has the ability to let the two of them have no worries about food and clothing, he can even let the two of them stay at home with their children without having to go to work.

However, there is no need.

Raising a child is not part of the original desire.

Therefore, the arbor can't help but be a little loose.

It's that she has to suffer herself.

I have to take the child for a long time.

What a debt to all children!

"I know, I don't want to be that tired.

Then I'll submit my resume tomorrow.

No, I'm afraid the original resume won't work, Mom, I'll go to make a resume first......"

The reason why Liu Xiaoyun must need Qiao Mu's consent is mainly because Qiao Mu does not agree, and if she doesn't help her take care of the child, she can't get off work at all, and now she finally hears Qiao Mu's loose consent.

Naturally, she was also excited.

With that, he hurried back to the house to make his resume.

In the next half a month, Liu Xiaoyun interviewed more than a dozen companies, and after answering questions such as whether he had the idea of having a second child more than a dozen times, he finally found a design job with difficulty.

Everything starts from scratch.

The young couple all went to work, and the children in the family could only be taken by the arbor, which lasted for three years, until Wei Ju died three years later, Zhang Meihua finally freed up her hands and began to compete with the arbor for the right to take the child.

Actually, Qiao Mu didn't want to fight.

It's good to live alone.

But the child is really inseparable from her, and Zhang Meihua, who has not seen each other a few times a year, is not very close, and for the sake of the child, Qiao Mu can only fight.

Fortunately, Wei Dijia is not confused.

In the end, he just asked his mother to help take care of it.

It's mainly arbors in the pipe.

Then, Zhang Meihua began to urge their little couple to have a second child or something like that, but Qiao Mu didn't care about these things, anyway, whether they had children or not, Qiao Mu would never go to serve the confinement or anything anymore, so it naturally didn't matter.

Under the toss of Zhang Meihua's crying, making trouble and hanging herself, Wei Dijia and Liu Xiaoyun could only have one more in the end, this time she gave birth to a son, Zhang Meihua didn't need to be called, she went over to help her daughter-in-law serve the confinement child, and took care of her Wei family's precious golden grandson.

As a result, the entire Wei family formed a situation where the grandmother took care of her granddaughter and the grandmother took care of her grandson.

Do not interfere with each other, support each other.

Fortunately, the age difference between the two children is nearly ten years, so there is no contradiction between them.

They all grew up in relative peace and peace.

Qiao Mu has been taking his granddaughter to go to college in other places, so he completely let go, and then used the money earned by the system to buy a small farm yard, pick chrysanthemums under the east fence, and leisurely see the pension in Nanshan.