The most uncomfortable thing for Gu Lingse was that Tang Di didn't even notice his mistake until now! He didn't know what was wrong with him, because he didn't know what he was wrong with!

Gu Lingse really wanted to scold Tang Di twice, or slap him twice. But in the face of Tang Di's humble appearance of asking for advice, she couldn't let out all her anger. I can only hold it in my heart, not to mention how uncomfortable it is.

"I mean—" Pacing back and forth irritably, Gu Lingse scratched his hair, "Hmm...... In a word, anything bad about Lin'er now is your reason. In the final analysis, it was the problem with your education method that led to Lin'er's nonsense in the dispute! Well, that's it! It's you who is wrong, not Lin'er. ”

Tang Di spread his hands, a little helpless, "But you still haven't told me what I did wrong." ”

“…… Why don't you think for yourself if you're such a smart person? "If I say I'm serious about it, but I can't think of it, will you believe it? ”

"Faith."

Because a smart person like Tang Di, if he really thought of it, he would leave very decently and quickly. I won't sit here and be lectured by her like a student.

"Can you tell me now, what did I do wrong?" Tang Di's sincerity in asking made Gu Lingse lose the strength to be angry.

She sat on the sofa, pinched the bridge of her nose, and said slowly: "You have done too many things wrong." Tracing back to the most fundamental reason, I think it is that you never really took time out to spend with Lin'er. ”

A child is very hungry for the attention of his parents. Especially children born in wealthy families, the attention of their parents is even more terrifying. Especially the attention and attention from my father is the most important.

Having a very good father is a good thing, but it is not a good thing.

Tang Di is too good, and in Lin'er's mind, his father is the most powerful hero. Don't they all say that the first idol of a boy is his father? Lin'er, too.

He adored his father so much, and wanted his father's attention so much. But Tang Di rarely even glanced at Lin'er.

"You touched your conscience to come back to my question, how many times have you hugged Lin'er? Do you really let go of your work and ambitions and spend even half a day with Lin'er? Do you have the responsibilities and obligations to be a father? Do you know Lin'er's hobbies? Do you know Lin'er's likes and dislikes? Do you know Lin'er's favorite dish? ”

Tang Di didn't know any of this.

Because, he never paid attention to his son.

So it is not difficult to understand Lin'er's oversensitivity and over-desire for attention.

What is missing in childhood, the more I care about something.

Why is it that in the midst of arguments and quarrels, Poggi can quickly apologize in order to settle the argument - whether he is at fault or not? Why, it's simple. Because Poggi does not lack the attention of adults to him. He doesn't need to mess around to get the attention of adults. With crying, to win the attention of adults to themselves.

And Lin'er, he has never been noticed by his biological father, and he even ...... has never been looked at by his own biological father. Therefore, when encountering a little dispute, Lin'er's emotions will all collapse, which is too normal.

Gu Lingse was still curious about why Lin'er, a sensible, obedient and upright child, would mess around to that point. Now, she's finally found that reason.

Tang Di's indifference has caused all the problems that Lin'er has now!

Gu Lingse's series of questions just now made Tang Di fall silent.

Looking at the man opposite, Gu Lingse added expressionlessly, "The answer to the question I just asked is clear to both Ye Chengshu and Quan Zimo. ”

Even Ye Chengshu and Quan Zimo knew the answer, as Lin'er's biological father, Tang Di couldn't answer any of them. Just like him, what qualifications does he have to say that he is Lin'er's biological father?

He knows his son well, and he is not even as good as Ye Chengshu and Quan Zimo.

Is such a person Lin'er's father?

On the premise that he doesn't know his son at all, he just knows a rough idea, so he presumptuously concludes that it's all Lin'er's fault. Is a man like him worthy to be a father to others?

"Tang Di, then I'll change the way I ask. What do you want to say when you come to me? ”

"I originally ......" Tang Di pursed his lips and replied slowly, "I originally wanted you to be more tolerant of Lin'er." Don't let his nonsense make —"

"And not him?" Gu Lingse raised his eyebrows and sneered, "Tang Di, I am in your heart, is this kind of image?" I mean, you look down on people too much. ”

Before Lin Xuan died, he entrusted Lin'er to her. And she also took over the responsibility of taking care of Lin'er. No matter what kind of problem child Lin'er is, it is impossible for her not to want Lin'er, let alone ignore Lin'er! It's better to go shopping, Lin'er is not a problem child. He is sensible and obedient, and he is also very considerate.

What reason did she have to abandon Lin'er?

Tang Di himself has never taken care of Lin'er, does he think that everyone in the world is like him?

It's ridiculous.

It's too contemptuous of people.

"Zimo's character, I know it very well. If Lin'er ......" paused, Tang Di said: "I originally thought so. I'm afraid that Lin'er's nonsense will make Zimo lose patience with him. I'm here for you, just to make you more tolerant and tolerant. I originally thought that I had fulfilled the responsibility of a father by coming to you like this, but now that I look at it, I am the most naïve and naïve one. "It's good that you know for yourself. Gu Lingse snorted coldly, and said coldly: "Do you think you came to me like this, let me tolerate Lin'er, and don't ignore him." Is it fulfilling the responsibility of a father? Naive, Tang Di, let me tell you, you are so naïve! With or without you, we will all educate Lin'er very well and well. ”

With a stretch of his finger, Gu Lingse pointed in the direction of the office door and said coldly: "If you came to me for this, then I can answer you now, you are too worried." Then, you can leave. ”

Her words are not very good. It's ugly, but it didn't anger Tang Di or anything. He sat calmly on the sofa and looked at her with a calm face, "Then can you tell me how to be a qualified father?" ”

"I can't."

"Why?" 
"Because what everyone thinks of as a good father is different. In my opinion, the way of education can be wrong, but as a father, you must at least have enough attention and concern for your son. And you, you've never really cared about Lin'er. I don't even recognize you as Lin'er's father. Do you know, Tang Di, Lin'er's relationship with you, in addition to borrowing your essence. Son, there is no other relationship. ”

Gu Lingse's words were very serious, and Tang Di's calm expression was slightly broken. But he managed his expression perfectly, controlled his mood, paused, and then said calmly: "So, I am working hard now to make up for my previous mistakes." ”

"Tang Di, I didn't mean to squeeze you or something. I'm serious about telling you that I really don't have the ability to teach you how to be a good father. There's only one thing I can tell you. ”

"I'm listening."

"Instead of discussing with me here how to be a qualified father, you should care more about Lin'er. I know that Ye Chengshu doesn't allow you to see Lin'er in private, and I think so too. But that doesn't prevent you from caring about Lin'er and understanding Lin'er's current situation, right? You have the ability to know what I whispered to Ye Chengshu in bed last night, so it must be not a difficult thing for you to understand your own son's every move, right? ”

Tang Di nodded seriously, "It's not difficult." ”

As long as he wanted, he could even know how much time Lin'er spent in the bathroom each time, and it was accurate to the second.

"So, what are you going to do, I don't need me to teach you anymore, do I?" 
Tang Di was a little confused, "It's just...... Is it okay to pay attention to Lin'er's every move like this? ”

Is it just that way to be a good father?

Gu Lingse took a deep breath and said word by word: "Let you care about your son, it has nothing to do with whether you can become a qualified father!" But as a father of others, you don't care about your son at all, do you think you can be a qualified father? ”

Caring for one's children does not necessarily mean that he is a qualified father. But it doesn't matter to his children, he is definitely not a qualified father.

Is this truth so difficult to understand?

Obviously, Tang Di is an out-and-out smart person!

"I am one of the most ignorant fathers when it comes to how to treat my own children."

"In my opinion, you don't deserve to be called a father. You are only the one who gave birth to Lin'er, and you cannot be called a father yet. ”

"Okay, I got it."

Gu Lingse raised his eyebrows and squinted at him coldly, "What do you know?" ”

"Caring for my son is what I should do. As for what qualified or unqualified father is, it doesn't matter anymore. ”

"It's best if you think so!" Gu Lingse breathed a sigh of relief slightly, it seemed that her hard work was not without any results. At least, Tang Di began to know that he had to care about Lin'er.

"Actually......"

"Actually, what?" Tang Di asked her very calmly.

Gu Lingse tugged at the corners of her mouth, and said with some embarrassment: "Actually, the fact that you can come to me today already means that you have begun to care about Lin'er." If you don't care about Lin'er, you don't have to worry about whether we're going to have Lin'er or not, right? You're still not qualified to be a father, but you've done the best you can. ”

"Yes." Being praised by Gu Lingse like this, Tang Di was still a little difficult to get used to, he rubbed his hands, and said slowly: "I always seem to take it for granted that I am doing things that I think are good for Lin'er." But I ignored that I was actually the root cause of Lin'er's failure. "Lin'er is not a failure at all, he is very good, very good. Gu Ling's face corrected lightly.

Tang Di was stunned for a moment, and then nodded again and again, "Yes, he is very good, very good." Again, I made random conclusions without understanding the situation. ”

"You give what you think is the best to Lin'er, but those are not necessarily what Lin'er needs. Tang Di, I suggest you, think about whether this is what Lin'er wants before making any decisions in the future. Instead, you think that's what Lin'er wants. ”

Lin'er just wanted to eat grapes, but Tang Di bought him a truckload of apples, and then he had to be complacent and fatherly to tell others, look, how much money, how much time, and how much experience I spent to buy this truckload of apples for my son.

Let the unknown. The truth people thought that Tang Di was so good to Lin'er that he was willing to spend so much money and energy to buy him a truckload of apples!

A truckload of apples!

But in fact, Lin'er just wants to eat a grape. He doesn't want to eat apples.