No wonder people say that every problem in a child is a direct reflection of the problem in the parents!

Gu Lingse now feels that this sentence is very much.

The problems of children are all the problems of parents!

If the parents do well enough, there will be no problems with the child!

Take Lin'er as an example.

Why did such a sensible and obedient child behave so ignorant and ...... in the dispute with Poggi Messing around.

For this reason, Gu Lingse found it-

It's Tang Di.

Tang Di's indiscriminate behavior of belittleing Lin'er first, how can Lin'er be able to deal with a dispute calmly? How can you make Lin'er not mess around and make adults agree with his views and support his views?

Yes, Tang Di's eyeliner is very powerful, and he must know why Poji and Lin'er quarreled. But Tang Di didn't even ask her, and came up and said directly that the reason why the two children quarreled must be that Lin'er did something wrong.

Not to mention Lin'er, when she heard Tang Di's words, she felt wronged. Not to mention a child?

Something happened, his father first put all the faults on his head, no wonder Lin'er died aggrieved, and she must be on her side!

Because I have been wronged too many times, I am more sensitive and more careful!

Lin'er's scheming is not Lin'er's stinginess at all, but Tang Di forced it out alive. forced a good child into a nasty ghost who messed around.

"Tang Di, you should apologize to Lin'er." Gu Lingse said mercilessly, "You really don't deserve to be a father." You simply don't have the qualifications to be a father. ”

Tang Di sat opposite her expressionlessly, making it impossible to see his emotions at all.

"No matter how mature Poggi is, he's a kid too. When two children quarrel, they each play fifty boards, and everyone is at fault. If neither of them is at fault, then there will be no argument at all. Will you quarrel with Ye Chengshu? No way! Because you are all sane and you are all adults. Whatever happens, you'll just sit down and talk slowly. Only children will quarrel! If it's an adult, just look at the real ability. ”

"Are you ......" Tang Di raised his eyebrows, "How are you educating me to educate my son?" ”

"That's right!" Gu Lingse slapped the table, "No matter what wrong thing you do, Lin'er is your biological son!" It is impossible for Ye Chengshu and I to rob your son, and neither will Quan Zimo. Lin'er is your son, and that will never change. One day, Lin'er will still come back to you. There is no doubt about this. If you don't even know how to be a father, how can you educate Lin'er? ”

"Education, we have educated Lin'er very well." Gu Lingse added slowly.

"I don't know why you're so angry." Tang Di said very sincerely, "I'm just telling you my own thoughts, why do you make you so angry?" I really don't know the reason. ”

Obviously, he's just telling the truth, isn't he?

Poggy is so mature, he won't bother with Lin'er. It must have been Lin'er who was ignorant and did something wrong, so she quarreled with Poggy.

"Tang Di! I sternly warn you, you are simply wrong in this way! Do you know the whole truth of the matter? Do you know why Lin'er is angry with Poji? Do you know what Poggy did and said? You don't know, so why do you make up your mind and say it's Lin'er's fault? ”

"Because I know Poggy."

"Fart!" Gu Lingse was annoyed all of a sudden, and the anger in her heart could no longer be controlled, she suddenly got up from the sofa and paced back and forth in the spacious office.

Tang Di just looked at her very calmly, and he didn't know why she was so angry.

"You ——!" Gu Lingse pointed at the tip of Tang Di's nose, and just wanted to say something, but when he saw the confusion in his eyes, he was suddenly angry and couldn't say anything.

When a father doesn't understand his son? Doesn't that sound like a word? It simply doesn't make sense!

He who is a father to others determines the cause and effect of a thing, not because he knows his own son, but because he knows the son of someone else?

Gu Lingse was almost mad!

Can there be anything more absurd than this?

When a father doesn't understand his own son, he confidently says that he understands someone else's son. If it weren't for the fact that the curtains weren't closed, there were too many Qin employees watching outside the door, Gu Lingse really wanted to slap Tang Di a few times to make him sober up.

Is he like this, does he have the face to call him a human father?

Tang Di is not worthy of sitting here at all and discussing the topic of educating Lin'er with her!

He doesn't deserve it!

"If I say something wrong, you can correct me." couldn't wait for Gu Lingse to speak, Tang Di couldn't help but speak first, he said: "As far as I know about Poji, even if he provokes Lin'er first." And in terms of Poggy's character, it is very likely that he provoked Poggy first. But as long as Lin'er is angry, Poggy will step back and apologize to Lin'er. Settle the dispute. The fact that I know is that the two of them quarreled fiercely. I think that only when Lin'er starts messing around again, and you must punish Porgy, will a dispute between children turn into an uncontrollable war. What am I saying, is there something wrong? ”

Even though he no longer recognized Tang Di's education method in his heart, Gu Lingse had to admit it. Tang Di's inference is really not wrong at all. Although the others were not present, they were basically the same.

He knows both children's reactions and personalities.

As a result, the question in Gu Lingse's heart was even greater, "Tang Di, it seems that you know Lin'er quite well." Why do you have such a big prejudice against Lin'er? You're his real father! How can you have such a prejudice against him? "Prejudice? Tang Di raised his eyebrows, "I'm just stating the facts, where do I have a prejudice against him." ”

"You used the idiom of messing around and pestering to describe Lin'er."

"Isn't it?" Tang Di asked inexplicably, "Don't you think Lin'er's performance is messing around?" Obviously, people have apologized to him, but he still refuses to let go. You must let the adult punish the other party, and it is best to beat someone, so that he is willing to be satisfied. It's not nonsense, what else can it be. ”

"Yes, Lin'er's performance yesterday was a bit of nonsense. But ......" was stunned, Gu Lingse didn't know how to explain this to a person who didn't know how to be a father at all, but she had to explain, so she could only bite the bullet.

"Tang Di, that's right. You only saw Lin'er's nonsense when she was arguing with other children, why don't you think you want to think about it, what caused Lin'er's current nonsense? Tang Di was stunned, he seemed to have never thought about this problem.

"You don't know, do you? Let me tell you, it's because of your behavior that Lin'er is messing around now! No matter what big or small things Lin'er encounters, her first reaction is to seek the approval of adults, rather than thinking about what she can do to make adults recognize herself. It's just very capricious, commanding to let adults approve of him. ”

"I ......" Tang Di frowned confusedly, "My behavior?" ”

"That's right! It's your behavior! led to Lin'er's current appearance! ”

Tang Di pursed his lips and said slowly: "Gu Lingse, I'm really not good at educating children. I know that your anger must have been something I did wrong. But I really don't know what's wrong with me, can you tell me? ”

Facing a man who was so humble and seeking advice, Gu Lingse was really full of anger.

How to sprinkle? With whom?

No one is born to be a parent who educates their children, isn't it all slowly groping?

But Tang Di, give him too little time to explore. He barely had much time to spend with Lin'er, let alone how to educate his children.

It seems that Tang Di, who was sitting opposite her, looked confused and sincere, very sincere. But if you think about it, you don't have much time to figure out how to educate your own children, if you get along with your own children, but who caused all this?

Isn't it caused by him Tang Di himself!

Ye Chengshu and Yuzu were separated for seven years, and before Yuzu was seven years old, she didn't see her daddy at all. Why can Ye Chengshu get along well with Yuzu now? Why does Ye Chengshu know how to educate his daughter now?

It's not because Ye Chengshu is smarter than Tang Di!

Speaking of being smart, Gu Lingse felt that none of these men were smarter than anyone else, and no one was stupider than anyone else. Even if Tang Di is a little more stupid than Ye Chengshu, Tang Di's IQ can learn how to educate children, but it's not as simple as playing?

Why is Tang Di now blind to education Lin'er?

In the final analysis, Tang Di has never paid attention to Lin'er before! Not once!

Quan Zimo's attitude towards Poji's education is also very careless.

But is that really Quan Zimo not caring about Bo Jiman?

Contrary!

Quan Zimo is using what he thinks is the right way to educate Poji. Gu Lingse didn't dare to say that Quan Zimo's free-range education method was correct, but at least Quan Zimo made this decision after thinking about it very seriously!

Moreover, it is necessary to formulate the education method according to the personality of each child!

The way Quan Zimo used to educate Boji was obviously not suitable for Lin'er. Therefore, Quan Zimo kept Lin'er by his side and taught him little by little.

Look, that's the difference between Kwon Zimo's education methods. It's not that Quan Zimo is indifferent to Poji, but he cares more about Lin'er. It's just that Quan Zimo knows very well that the personalities of the two children are different, so the education methods should also be different.

Poggy's personality is obviously a free-range education method, which is more suitable for the way he grows up on his own.

But Lin'er's character must not do this. Let go and let Lin'er grow and explore by herself, and the adults only play a supervisory role on the side, which will only harm Lin'er!

Because Lin'er is more delicate and sensitive. He cares a lot and is sensitive to the attitude of adults towards him. A little bit of indifference from the adults will make Lin'er collapse. Therefore, Lin'er must stay by their side and teach carefully.

But Poggy is different, and Poggy himself prefers to learn by himself rather than teaching by hand. See with his eyes, listen with his ears, and then make your own judgment and learn for yourself.

That's the difference between two children.

Quan Zimo seems to be a cynical parent, but in fact, Quan Zimo is more serious about educating children than anyone else.

It was only after analyzing each child's personality that he decided what kind of education to use.

But Tang Di only saw Quan Zimo's abandonment, but he didn't see the seriousness behind Quan Zimo.

Compared with Quan Zimo, Tang Di is simply-

Awful!